Just smoke my cigarette; hush

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i thought he said “you don’t have to worry about myranda anymore”. so why is it every time i come get on the computer, he has a chat window open with the bitch?

love it when an already shitty day is made worse. it is my favorite thing.

Karma can be a really ugly thing. And it doesn’t always have long-term effects. Sometimes karma can turn around and be in affect within…well, weeks, from your bad deed. Or days. The same goes with good karma. What goes around comes around…every time. 

miastral:

After a While
by Veronica A. Shoffstall

After a while you learn
The subtle difference between
Holding a hand and chaining a soul
And you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning
And company doesn’t always mean security.

And you begin to learn
That kisses aren’t contracts
And presents aren’t promises
And you begin to accept your defeats
With your head up and your eyes ahead
With the grace of a woman
Not the grief of a child

And you learn
To build all your roads on today
Because tomorrow’s ground is
Too uncertain for plans
And futures have a way
Of falling down in mid flight

After a while you learn
That even sunshine burns if you get too much
So you plant your own garden
And decorate your own soul
Instead of waiting
For someone to bring you flowers

And you learn
That you really can endure
That you are really strong
And you really do have worth
And you learn and you learn
With every good bye you learn.

marnienotmadden:

I’ve said it before and I will say it again.

Sansa does not represent womanhood (or girlhood). Arya does not represent womanhood. Fans of Cersei Lannister do not view her as example of what women should be or a representation of all female strength (and I have seen this charge lobbed at them). Fans of Catelyn Stark do not believe she is a representation of what all women should be.

No female character should ever, ever have to be in the position of representing women on a whole, nor should any woman in real life. My loving Sansa, Cersei and Cat’s narratives, or wishing Jeyne, Ygritte or Elia had gotten better ones, does not mean that I believe any of them should be held up as examples of all women.

Because nobody ever calls Jaime Lannister an inadequate representation of men.

emforhim:

and Joss Whedon.

loves-anodyne:

Why the friendzone is bullshit and self-proclaimed “nice guys” are misogynists

angels-and-angles:

Wow, accidentally deleted my original post. Reblogging so I can keep it in my archives.

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As defined by urban dictionary, the friendzone is…

“When you are expected to support a girl you really like while she searches for a smarter, richer, and more handsome boyfriend. There is little you can do without feeling like a dick. All in all, one of the meanest things a girl can do, whether they mean it or not.”

and ”The perennial location of nice guys everywhere.”

Although this hypothetical situation could work both ways, friendzone is almost always applied to a man who is rejected by a woman. Therefore, there is something inherently unequal, something inherently sexist about the term “friendzone”. But what and why?

From my experience, this is what friend zone is. A “nice guy” pursues a woman, but isn’t forward with his intentions from the get-go like, say, a “jerk”. The woman is pleased to see a man who is interested in her not as a sexual object but as a human being and wishes for things to stay that way. The man is not satisfied with seeing the woman as a human being because being “expected to support a girl” is a bad deal if she’s not putting out.

Before I delve into the sociological aspects of this, I just want to point out that ”friendzone” is no more pleasant for a woman than it is a man. First, that is to say unrequited love works both ways, but the person who doesn’t return affections is considered mean only when she’s a woman. And second, what option does the woman have in a traditional “friendzone” situation? Just stop talking to a close friend to avoid “leading him on”? In high school, I found out my best friend of 2 years liked me. Having to tell him I didn’t feel the same way and being immediately ex-communicated via Facebook status (“Thanks for wasting my time”) was one of the worst things that ever happened to me. Were our two years of friendship invalid because I didn’t want anything more? Was all our time together really wasted because there was no hypothetical pay off?

Guys who do this and claim to be “nice guys” are the worst misogynists because of their sense of entitlement toward a woman. They make investments in property and expect their dividends. They are fake friends. They are selfish. And they will jump at the chance to vilify you and victimize themselves when their attempts at manipulation don’t work. Clearly, “friendzone” is the remnant of a phenomenon that has plagued women since the beginning of time: women are not independent creatures. Our love lives exist only in the context of a man’s desire. When we make independent decisions, we are subject to a host of derogatory terms. “Slut” is how we vilify a woman for exercising her right to say “yes”. “Friendzone” is how we vilify a woman for exercising her right to say “no”

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whoa. ok. i had a guy (who i have known for years but only recently got back into contact with, yay interwebs) say that he was “putting me in the friendzone” because I was married. should i still feel like that’s…a bad thing? 

this article doesn’t pertain to me i guess, as a married woman any male i befriend is immediately going to put me in that category (unless they’re giant douches or something idk) but. i wonder if the term “friendzone” in and of itself is an inherently misogynistic one.