“To protest a bill that would require women to undergo an ultrasound before having an abortion, Virginia State Sen. Janet Howell (D-Fairfax) on Monday attached an amendment that would require men to have a rectal exam and a cardiac stress test before obtaining a prescription for erectile dysfunction medication.”—
“I felt a little bit threatened, if you will, by his attitude”—
Jan Brewer the fucking racist Governor of Arizona commenting on her now-infamous encounter President Obama the other day.
Really, Jan? You felt threatened by him?… The president of the United States? Out in the open? Surrounded by reporters? While YOU were shoving YOUR finger in HIS face? Let’s face it, the only thing you found threatening about him was that he’s a black man and you’re a white woman.
Karma can be a really ugly thing. And it doesn’t always have long-term effects. Sometimes karma can turn around and be in affect within…well, weeks, from your bad deed. Or days. The same goes with good karma. What goes around comes around…every time.
After a while you learn The subtle difference between Holding a hand and chaining a soul And you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning And company doesn’t always mean security.
And you begin to learn That kisses aren’t contracts And presents aren’t promises And you begin to accept your defeats With your head up and your eyes ahead With the grace of a woman Not the grief of a child
And you learn To build all your roads on today Because tomorrow’s ground is Too uncertain for plans And futures have a way Of falling down in mid flight
After a while you learn That even sunshine burns if you get too much So you plant your own garden And decorate your own soul Instead of waiting For someone to bring you flowers
And you learn That you really can endure That you are really strong And you really do have worth And you learn and you learn With every good bye you learn.
Sansa does not represent womanhood (or girlhood). Arya does not represent womanhood. Fans of Cersei Lannister do not view her as example of what women should be or a representation of all female strength (and I have seen this charge lobbed at them). Fans of Catelyn Stark do not believe she is a representation of what all women should be.
No female character should ever, ever have to be in the position of representing women on a whole, nor should any woman in real life. My loving Sansa, Cersei and Cat’s narratives, or wishing Jeyne, Ygritte or Elia had gotten better ones, does not mean that I believe any of them should be held up as examples of all women.
Because nobody ever calls Jaime Lannister an inadequate representation of men.
“I’m not saying that we are all criminals for participating in file sharing. It is my hope that content distributors will start to realize why people pirate. That it isn’t just because it is free. It’s also goddamned convenient. They need to accept that times have changed. We don’t want to buy their DVDs. We don’t want overpriced cable bundles with 40 channels we will never watch. Photoshop should not cost 700 goddamn dollars. We want safe, reliable content available for download instantly and priced within reason. By not providing this, distributors are almost begging people to steal their shit.”—
Steam is a fantastic example of this. Big media really need to start thinking outside of the box, get with the times, and comprehend fully the changing landscape.
Creative media developers also need to realise that increasingly large numbers of what would once have been considered ‘lay people’ are now very much competent in the use of complex creative software, only they don’t have the budgets of professional studios to be able to afford the absurd price tags attached to products such as Photoshop and Macromedia software.
Wow, accidentally deleted my original post. Reblogging so I can keep it in my archives.
As defined by urban dictionary, the friendzone is…
“When you are expected to support a girl you really like while she searches for a smarter, richer, and more handsome boyfriend. There is little you can do without feeling like a dick. All in all, one of the meanest things a girl can do, whether they mean it or not.”
and ”The perennial location of nice guys everywhere.”
Although this hypothetical situation could work both ways, friendzone is almost always applied to a man who is rejected by a woman. Therefore, there is something inherently unequal, something inherently sexist about the term “friendzone”. But what and why?
From my experience, this is what friend zone is. A “nice guy” pursues a woman, but isn’t forward with his intentions from the get-go like, say, a “jerk”. The woman is pleased to see a man who is interested in her not as a sexual object but as a human being and wishes for things to stay that way. The man is not satisfied with seeing the woman as a human being because being “expected to support a girl” is a bad deal if she’s not putting out.
Before I delve into the sociological aspects of this, I just want to point out that ”friendzone” is no more pleasant for a woman than it is a man. First, that is to say unrequited love works both ways, but the person who doesn’t return affections is considered mean only when she’s a woman. And second, what option does the woman have in a traditional “friendzone” situation? Just stop talking to a close friend to avoid “leading him on”? In high school, I found out my best friend of 2 years liked me. Having to tell him I didn’t feel the same way and being immediately ex-communicated via Facebook status (“Thanks for wasting my time”) was one of the worst things that ever happened to me. Were our two years of friendship invalid because I didn’t want anything more? Was all our time together really wasted because there was no hypothetical pay off?
Guys who do this and claim to be “nice guys” are the worst misogynists because of their sense of entitlement toward a woman. They make investments in property and expect their dividends. They are fake friends. They are selfish. And they will jump at the chance to vilify you and victimize themselves when their attempts at manipulation don’t work. Clearly, “friendzone” is the remnant of a phenomenon that has plagued women since the beginning of time: women are not independent creatures. Our love lives exist only in the context of a man’s desire. When we make independent decisions, we are subject to a host of derogatory terms. “Slut” is how we vilify a woman for exercising her right to say “yes”. “Friendzone” is how we vilify a woman for exercising her right to say “no”
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whoa. ok. i had a guy (who i have known for years but only recently got back into contact with, yay interwebs) say that he was “putting me in the friendzone” because I was married. should i still feel like that’s…a bad thing?
this article doesn’t pertain to me i guess, as a married woman any male i befriend is immediately going to put me in that category (unless they’re giant douches or something idk) but. i wonder if the term “friendzone” in and of itself is an inherently misogynistic one.
“Shame on Walt. Like, I hate Walt for what he’s done to Jesse. If only Jesse knew all the horrible things that he did, oh my God. I love that they’re back together, but it’s always been such a back-and-forth struggle, a love-hate relationship. But I think at the end, in the parking lot, I think they’re there for each other. They know it was a rough ride. I think they understand each other as true partners now. I don’t think Walt considers himself as a boss to Jesse anymore. Maybe deep down, because Walt has a big ego, but I think Jesse sees himself as being equal to Walt.”—
Aaron Paul, at Sundance, answering “Does it make you sad to see how [Walt and Jesse’s] relationship has frayed over time?” [via Vulture] (via ryeisenberg)